Spice Of Wife

In this episode, I'm sharing 7 things I actually believe about marriage AND THE LIES I DON'T—from why marriage can be one of the best relationships of your life, to why your husband isn't responsible for your happiness, to why you may have more options than "stay miserable" or leave. We're talking love, comparison, personal responsibility, connection, and the possibility of creating a marriage that feels fun, supportive, passionate, and deeply loving.

What if strengthening your marriage had less to do with changing your husband—and more to do with coming back to yourself? In Episode 84 of The Spice of Wife, I sit down with Monica Tanner, author of Bad Marriage Advice, for an honest conversation about marriage, emotional regulation, intimacy, and sex. We talk about what happens when you stop trying to control your partner and start focusing on what you actually can control: your own thoughts, emotions, choices, and responses. Monica shares her "don't jump in the pool" analogy for staying grounded when your husband is dysregulated, and we dive into the beliefs women inherit about sex, why intimacy should feel collaborative instead of obligatory, and how to get curious about what actually feels good to you. We also talk about rekindling intimacy after years together, having honest conversations about sex, allowing yourself to receive pleasure, and creating a marriage that continues to evolve as you do. If you've been feeling disconnected, stuck in your head,…

Some days are just hard. The kids are sick, you're exhausted, your husband isn't showing up the way you want, and suddenly it feels like everything is happening to you. In this episode, I'm breaking down the difference between pain and suffering — and how we often make hard moments even harder with the stories we add on top. You'll learn how to recognize when you're slipping into martyr mode, separate clean pain from dirty pain, and ask yourself: What do I actually need right now? And if you're ready for less stress and more connection in your marriage and home, join me for Marriage & Mocktails on October 17th. Grab your ticket at www.brookesann.com/events

What if the thing keeping you stuck isn't actually a lack of money, time, love, support, or opportunity—but the belief that there isn't enough? In this episode of Spice of Wife, we're going deeper into the "not enoughness" that quietly shows up everywhere: in your marriage, your bank account, your business, your home, your parenting, and even your calendar. I'm sharing what I've learned about releasing what no longer serves you, trusting that you can figure things out, and moving from restriction and fear into abundance and overflow. We're talking about wanting MORE—not because your life isn't enough, but because you already are enough. More love. More connection. More money. More pleasure. More space. More possibility. And maybe most importantly, we're talking about getting honest about what you actually desire—because your desires may be pointing you toward the woman you were always meant to become. Check out Episode 80: How Scarcity Impacts Marriage If your ready for the next step apply HERE to work with…

What if the overwhelm, reactivity, pressure, and disconnection you're feeling isn't because you need to try harder—but because your nervous system has been running on high alert? In this episode, I sit down with Rachel Friedman to talk about shame, nervous system regulation, marriage, business, motherhood, and learning how to actually be with yourself. Rachel shares why shame often sounds like "I should," how self-witnessing can interrupt that cycle, and why nervous system tools work best when we practice them before we're in the middle of a meltdown. We also talk about the way our business stress can spill into our marriage, why our partners can become our greatest mirrors, and how learning to communicate what we actually need creates deeper intimacy. We talk about: • The difference between guilt and shame • Why "should" can be such a powerful shame trigger • Rachel's simple nervous system hygiene practice • Why high-achieving women can get stuck in constant fight-or-flight • How to listen to your body…

Scarcity doesn't just affect your bank account—it affects the way you love, connect, parent, and show up in your marriage. In this episode, I'm breaking down how the belief that there's "not enough" can quietly create anxiety, resentment, control, and disconnection. Whether it's not enough time, money, attention, love, or support, scarcity can keep us grasping for more or pulling away altogether. You'll learn how to recognize when scarcity is running the show, interrupt those thoughts, and begin shifting into abundance—where you feel more relaxed, connected, grateful, and grounded in the belief that you are already enough. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, reactive, or like your husband, marriage, or life just isn't giving you enough, this episode is for you. If your ready for your next step come join me in my Business Of Marriage program you can apply HERE.

What do you actually want? Not what makes sense. Not what everyone around you wants. Not what you think you're supposed to want. In this episode, I'm joined by Carly Moore for a conversation about identity, desire, personal responsibility, marriage, energy, nervous-system regulation, and becoming the woman you actually want to be. After 22 years behind the chair, Carly had to untangle her identity as a hairstylist and learn how to see herself differently before she could create the next chapter of her life. We talk about: • Why your identity can keep you stuck in an old version of your life • Getting clear on what you really want • Taking responsibility instead of waiting for other people to change • What happens when you stop trying to "coach" your husband • Creating safety to dream bigger • Future-self work and making decisions from the woman you're becoming • Bringing FUN back into your marriage, family, and business • Why healing can sometimes look like remembering who you already are This conversation…

What if the biggest shift in your marriage didn't require your husband to change? In this conversation, Tyona Vallejo shares her journey from struggling in her own marriage to discovering the power of coaching, nervous system regulation, and radical responsibility. Together we explore how control is often our nervous system searching for safety—and how true connection begins when we learn to trust ourselves first. In this episode we discuss: Why waiting for your spouse to change keeps you stuck How nervous system regulation transforms conflict The connection between perfectionism, control, and safety Learning to trust yourself before expecting trust from your relationship Creating compassion instead of reacting during difficult moments Why healthy marriages are built through connection, not control If you've ever felt like you're doing everything, carrying the emotional load, or trying to "fix" your marriage, this episode will offer a refreshing perspective on what real partnership can look like. Come and…

What if the answer isn't learning how to control life better—but learning how to trust yourself? In this episode, I'm talking about the difference between being your own authority and depending on other people to tell you what to think, feel, or do. We'll unpack how both people-pleasing and controlling can come from the same place: not trusting ourselves. I'll share three simple practices to start building self-trust: let it be weird, pause, and take aligned action. Because the more you trust yourself, the less you need everyone else to change. And if your ready to take this practice into play come and apply for my 6 month program www.brookesann.com/apply

What if the person you want to become isn't as far away as you think? In this episode of The Spice of Wife, we're talking about identity—and how the way you see yourself shapes the way you show up in your health, marriage, motherhood, business, money, and everyday life. I'm sharing how something as simple as becoming a "hat person" taught me that confidence is just courage compounded over time, (Thank you to the brillant Emily Judice!) plus how identity-based habits can help you stop defining yourself by your circumstances and start intentionally becoming the woman you want to be. Instead of saying, "That's just not who I am," try this: "I'm learning to become…" Now you fill in the blank. If your ready to re-invent yourself and dive into who you really want to become apply at www.brookesann.com/apply to get started!

What do your calendar and your bank account say you value? In this episode, I'm talking about how we can stop feeling like victims of our schedules, obligations, and expenses and start intentionally using our time, money, energy, and resources to create the life we actually want. We'll break it down into four pieces: desire, intention, value, and resources—and look at whether the way you're spending your life actually reflects what matters most to you. Because your marriage, business, family life, and even the woman you're becoming don't happen by accident. We create them with intention. If you want to take it to the next step consider applying for my one on one program HERE>

Today's episode is a special one. I'm sharing the recording from a live workshop where I teach one of the most important concepts I've learned as a coach: you don't need better circumstances—you need a regulated nervous system. If you constantly feel overwhelmed, reactive, exhausted, or like you're carrying everyone else's responsibilities, this episode will help you understand why. Inside you'll learn: Why emotional dysregulation—not your circumstances—is keeping you stuck. The difference between living in survival mode and living from peace. My Green, Yellow, and Red Zone framework for understanding your emotions. The Stop, Drop & Breathe Method to regulate your nervous system in real time. How to become calm, grounded, and connected—even when life is still chaotic. You don't have to wait for your husband, your kids, or your circumstances to change before you can experience peace. You can become the woman who feels safe, grounded, and in control of herself—starting today. If you're ready to take this work…

After nearly 20 years behind the chair, Ashley Sweeney has learned that beauty is about so much more than hair. In this heartfelt conversation, Ashley shares how walking through divorce became the catalyst for rebuilding not only her business, but herself. We talk about what it means to create genuine community, why collaboration always wins over competition, learning to receive support, navigating co-parenting, setting healthy boundaries, and finding the courage to build a life that truly reflects who you are. Whether you're navigating a relationship transition, growing a business, or simply trying to reconnect with yourself, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to do it alone. In this episode, we discuss: Why women need other women Collaboration instead of competition Rebuilding after divorce Creating a business that aligns with your life Parenting vs. partnering Learning to ask for what you need Why doing the brave thing leads to the most growth Connect with Ashley: Instagram: @ashleyatstudioa…

What if one sentence could completely change the way you see your marriage? In this episode, Brooke shares a simple but powerful mindset shift that helps you stop focusing on your husband's behavior and start seeing the human underneath it. This isn't about excusing unhealthy behaviors or pretending everything is okay. It's about creating enough compassion to move from criticism and control into curiosity and connection. If you've been feeling frustrated, disconnected, or stuck in the same arguments, this episode will give you a practical tool you can start using today. Ready to take the next step? I'd love to support you inside my coaching program. Apply here: www.brookesann.com/apply Monster Emotion Book

Episode 71: Repairing the Damage in Marriage Is your marriage repairable? Maybe the better question is: Do you want to repair it? In this episode, Brooke shares why repair doesn't always mean staying together—it starts with healing yourself first. Through stories, practical insight, and a fresh perspective on recurring conflict, you'll learn why repairing your own triggers and emotional wounds is essential, no matter the outcome of your marriage. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is worth fighting for, this episode will help you explore what repair really looks like. If your ready to take the next step to identify whether you want to repair your marriage then click HERE to take your next step.

What if balance isn't about doing everything perfectly? So many high-achieving women feel like they're constantly failing—guilty at work because they think they should be home, and guilty at home because they think they should be working. But what if that feeling isn't coming from your circumstances... it's coming from the story you're telling yourself? In this episode, I'm sharing what balance actually looks like in marriage, motherhood, and business. We'll talk about why balance isn't standing perfectly still—it's learning to trust the back-and-forth, embracing both truths, and finding peace in the tension. Inside this episode, you'll learn: Why guilt keeps women feeling stuck and overwhelmed. The balance beam analogy that completely changed how I view work and family. How to stop believing you're always in the wrong place. Why both your marriage and your business can thrive without chasing perfection. The powerful mindset shift that helps you feel grounded: "I'm right where I need to be." If you've been…

You know what's not working. You know where you're frustrated. You know what feels too tight. You know the patterns you want to break. So why do we stay stuck? In this episode, Brooke shares a simple but powerful lesson she learned while doing laundry: awareness is only the first step. Just like clothes that no longer fit, the beliefs, habits, and relationship patterns that no longer serve us need a system for letting them go. You'll learn Brooke's simple four-step framework for creating real change in your marriage, business, parenting, and everyday life—so you can stop ruminating and start building momentum. If you're tired of collecting self-awareness but struggling to follow through, this episode will help you take the next step. Ready to create a marriage that becomes your greatest business asset? Apply to work with Brooke inside Business of Marriage at www.brookesann.com/apply.

Episode 68: When Everything Comes Undone in Marriage with Lizzie Langston Today is a special episode because I'm welcoming my very first guest to the podcast! (And will continue to have guests around the world every first wednesday of the month wooo!) In this conversation, I sit down with spiritual teacher and guide Lizzie Langston to talk about what happens when life, business, and marriage don't go according to plan. We dive into the seasons that stretch us, challenge us, and ultimately transform us. We talk about: • Why "coming undone" isn't the end—it's often the beginning of something better. • How differences in marriage can strengthen partnership instead of divide it. • Navigating business ownership through financial uncertainty, career changes, and life's unexpected twists. • Learning to trust your body, your intuition, and yourself. • Why your marriage doesn't need perfection—it needs partnership. Whether you're in a season of growth, transition, or rebuilding, this conversation will remind you that…

What if the greatest camp you could send your kids to this summer wasn't football camp or tech camp... but Camp Mom? In this episode, I'm sharing what my very first summer home full-time has taught me about motherhood, business, and creating a life that finally feels aligned. I'm talking about the tiny teaching moments we've been missing, why doing everything for our kids leaves everyone overwhelmed, and how building a business around your life—not your life around your business—changes everything. If you've ever felt stretched too thin, guilty that you're missing the moments that matter, or wondered if you can really have a thriving business, a connected marriage, and a home you actually enjoy... this episode is for you. If you're ready to build a business that supports your marriage, your motherhood, and the life you truly desire, I'd love to help. Apply for my Business of Marriage program at www.brookesann.com/apply.

Do you ever feel like summer just happens to you? Between family obligations, traditions, sports schedules, vacations, and trying to keep everyone happy, it's easy to spend the entire summer reacting instead of intentionally creating the season you actually want. In this episode, I'm sharing a simple exercise my husband and I used to create our "Fun Summer List" and why getting specific about what lights you up can completely change your marriage, your family life, and your summer. We'll talk about planning fun first, letting go of outdated traditions, creating more luxury in everyday moments, and why the best summers aren't the most expensive—they're the most intentional. If you're ready for a summer that feels energizing, aligned, and truly yours, this episode is for you. And if you're finding that your emotions are getting the best of you in your marriage, join me for my free workshop, When Feelings Get the Best of You in Marriage, on June 30th at 11:00 AM (EST / 1pm MT / 2 pm PT / 5pm CET). Ready for…

We've been taught that being a strong woman is something to be proud of. We hustle, push through, carry the load, and prove that we can handle anything life throws at us. But what if constantly being "the strong one" is actually keeping us from the partnership we crave? In this episode, I'm sharing why vulnerability is often much harder than strength, how control creates distance in marriage, and why so many women find themselves exhausted, resentful, and carrying more than their share. We'll explore the hidden cost of always being capable, the parent-child dynamic that can quietly develop in marriage, and the surprising path back to true partnership. If you've ever found yourself saying, "Fine, I'll just do it myself," this episode is for you. Because the marriage you're longing for doesn't require more strength. It requires more truth, more honesty, and the courage to let yourself be seen. Join us for a free online workshop When Feelings Get The Best Of You June 30th at 11am EST Or if your local join us…

Are you feeling more like your husband's mother than his partner? In this episode, I'm diving into why so many women unintentionally fall into a parent-child dynamic in marriage and how it creates resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection. We'll explore where these patterns come from, why they're so familiar, and most importantly, how to shift into a true partnership where both people feel supported, capable, and valued. If you're tired of carrying the mental load, managing everyone else's life, and feeling like you're doing it all, this episode will help you create a new dynamic—one built on trust, ownership, and connection. And if you're ready to take the next step and create the marriage you truly want, I'd love to chat with you. Apply for my Business of Marriage coaching program at www.brookesann.com/apply.

Do you find yourself saying things like "he never helps," "we're always arguing," or "our marriage is failing"? What if none of those things are actually true? In this episode, we're exploring polarity thinking—the tendency to see life, marriage, and the people we love through a black-and-white lens. Your brain loves labels. Good or bad. Right or wrong. Success or failure. But healthy marriages don't live in extremes. They live in the nuance, the complexity, and the thousands of shades in between. I'll share why your brain defaults to this kind of thinking, how it creates unnecessary suffering in your marriage, and what it looks like to move from certainty into curiosity. We'll talk about the difference between a light switch and a dimmer switch, why two opposite things can be true at the same time, and how embracing complexity can help you feel more connected, compassionate, and at peace. Because your husband is not a label. Your marriage is not a label. And neither are you. If you're ready to stop swinging…

This week, I'm sharing a deeply personal milestone: after 19 years behind the chair, I'm officially retiring from the salon and stepping fully into the next chapter of my life and business. Along the way, I've learned some powerful lessons about fear, alignment, work, family, and what it really means to create a life that supports who you are becoming. In this episode, we talk about why so many women feel exhausted, disconnected, and overwhelmed, the courage it takes to follow your own path, and why fear is often a sign that you're doing something bold. I'll also share my unconventional business plan, how I balance work and family, and why I believe you can build a business, marriage, and life that truly lights you up. If you've been craving more freedom, more alignment, and a deeper connection to yourself, your family, and your work, this episode is for you. And if you're ready to take the next step, come join me at Marriage & Mocktails on June 6th, where we'll be diving into boundaries—how to set them and…

This week I'm talking about the messy middle of life — the moments where I question myself, doubt myself, want to give up, and wonder if I'll ever make it to the other side. Through stories about motherhood, marriage, business, nervous system regulation, and even hiking in the Adirondacks with my family, I'm sharing how I've learned to stop abandoning myself when things get hard and instead trust myself enough to keep going. If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or discouraged lately, this episode will remind you that maybe nothing has gone wrong at all — you're simply in the middle of the loop. Please join us at Marriage & Mocktails June 6 register here: www.brookesann.com/events or if your ready to take your life to the next level click here to apply to join my transformational program : www.brookesann.com/apply

Today we're talking about something that feels almost rebellious in today's world… doing less. Less noise. Less multitasking. Less productivity. Less scrolling. Less trying to fix everything. Because maybe the answer to the overwhelm, disconnection, frustration, and exhaustion isn't more. Maybe it's less. In this episode, I'm sharing the shift I've been experiencing in my own life, marriage, motherhood, business, and nervous system as I learn to stop constantly reaching for more information, more distractions, more solutions—and instead come back home to myself. We dive into: Why modern life keeps us disconnected from ourselves The difference between knowing and actually learning How multitasking pulls us out of presence Why intuition is your greatest power source The hidden cost of constant productivity Learning to trust yourself instead of outsourcing your wisdom to everyone else Why calm and connection come from less, not more This episode is an invitation to slow down enough to actually hear yourself…

Ever feel like you can't fully count on your husband to follow through? Like you ask him to do something… and he forgets. Or does it on his own timeline. Or you find yourself constantly reminding him—and resenting him for it. In this episode, I'm breaking down a real-life listener question that so many women will relate to. But this isn't just about forgotten tasks or unmet expectations. This is about the deeper dynamic happening underneath it all. Because the truth is… your husband isn't broken. He's patterned. And so are you. This episode will challenge you—in the best way. Because your power isn't in getting him to change. It's in how you relate to who he already is. If you've ever thought, "I just wish I could count on him"… this conversation will shift everything. Come and join us at our Marriage & Mocktails event June 6th www.brookesann.com/events to save your seat! Or maye your ready to take it to the next level and deep dive into having the partnership marriage you really want. Click here to apply to…

Why does sex feel so complicated in marriage? If you've ever felt like something is wrong with you because you don't want sex as much as your husband…or sex feels stressful, pressured, disconnected, or simply not enjoyable—you are not alone. In this episode, we're having a very honest conversation about intimacy, desire, shame, nervous system regulation, pleasure, trauma, hormones, and the stories women carry around sex. I'm breaking down why you can't "should" yourself into desire, the difference between arousal and desire, how shame quietly kills intimacy, and why pleasure—not obligation—is the goal. We'll also talk about how healthy marriages create space for two whole people with different needs, preferences, and seasons of life to communicate honestly and care for their relationship together. This conversation is empowering, freeing, and deeply honest—and my hope is that it helps you release shame and step into a more connected, pleasurable, and authentic relationship with intimacy. Come join us at our…

Dysfunction doesn't mean your marriage is failing… it just means the way you're currently relating isn't sustainable or supportive. In this episode, I'm breaking down the difference between functional and dysfunctional marriage—and why so many high-achieving women unknowingly find themselves over-functioning, over-giving, and slowly building resentment. We're talking about: Why you feel like you're doing everything The hidden pattern of parenting your partner How over-functioning creates under-functioning The truth about emotional dependency (and why it feels so exhausting) What a functional marriage actually looks like The foundational skills that create real partnership This episode will help you shift out of control, pressure, and resentment… and into ownership, regulation, and connection. Because a functional marriage isn't about needing each other—it's about two whole people choosing each other. Nothing has gone wrong. You're right where you need to be. And awareness? That's where everything begins. If…

We hear "self care" everywhere… but what if most of us are getting it wrong—especially in our marriage? In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story from early motherhood when I was overwhelmed, depleted, and unknowingly asking my husband to take care of me in ways that weren't actually supportive. Because here's the truth: self care isn't the occasional vacation or girls' night—it's the small, daily ways you care for yourself in the middle of your real life. And when you learn how to truly care for yourself—physically, emotionally, and mentally—you stop showing up in your marriage from depletion… and start showing up as a whole, grounded woman. This episode will help you: Rethink what self care actually is Break out of the parent/child dynamic in your marriage Learn how to support yourself without outsourcing your needs Create a more connected, equal partnership If you want a marriage that feels supportive, energizing, and deeply connected… it starts with how you care for you. — If you love what you hear,…

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself… why am I married? Not because you want to leave—but because you're starting to realize… you don't actually need a partner to survive anymore. In today's episode, I'm speaking directly to high-achieving women who are building businesses, raising families, and holding it all together—while quietly questioning the role their marriage plays in their life. We're unpacking: Why modern women feel disconnected in marriage The shift from survival-based marriage to choice-based partnership The "in-between" space where you're not fully in… but not fully out And the powerful reframe that turns marriage into something that actually adds to your life Because marriage isn't about needing someone anymore… It's about choosing someone who expands your life, supports your growth, and stands in your corner. If you've been feeling off, disconnected, or questioning things—this episode will invite you back into clarity, intention, and deeper connection. ✨ And if you're ready to reset your…

Do you feel like you're carrying everything in your marriage—the mental load, the emotional weight, the constant responsibility—and wondering why your partner doesn't just step up? In this episode, I'm answering a real question from a listener who feels stuck in the cycle of overthinking, over-functioning, and micromanaging… even when her husband is "helping." We're diving into the deeper truth behind control, resentment, and the nervous system patterns that keep you doing it all. I'll walk you through simple, powerful shifts to help you stop managing everything, create real partnership, and finally feel supported—without needing him to change first. If you're tired of doing it all and ready to experience more connection, ease, and emotional freedom in your marriage… this episode is for you. And join us at Marriage & Mocktails April 18 in Utica, New York. www.brookesann.com/events or if your ready to jump in. I have a waiting list for June 1 welcoming women into my business of marriage program where we deep…

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So many women believe they have to divide themselves between their business, their marriage, their kids, and their personal life — constantly trying to "balance" separate areas of life. But that belief is exactly what leads to burnout. In this episode, I share a simple story from my life on our little homestead that perfectly illustrates what burnout actually looks like: carrying a heavy five-gallon bucket with a crack in the bottom. You keep pouring in effort, time, and energy… but it keeps leaking out. Inside this conversation, we explore: • Why burnout isn't about doing too much — it's about energy leaks • The hidden "should" thoughts that quietly drain your life • Why your marriage is actually a mirror for your inner world • The truth about building a business without sacrificing your relationship • And the mindset shift that allows your marriage and business to fuel each other instead of compete The secret to running a successful business without burning out your marriage is simple: When you pour into…

What do you do when it feels like your husband doesn't help with anything? In this episode, I'm unpacking one of the most common frustrations I hear from women: feeling like they're carrying everything in the marriage, home, and family while their partner seems disconnected or uninvolved. But what if the dynamic isn't as simple as "he won't help"? What if there's a deeper pattern at play? Today, I'm sharing a powerful perspective on masculine and feminine energy, why resentment builds when we take on too much, and how partnering with yourself first can completely change the way your partner shows up in the relationship. If you've ever thought: "Why do I have to do everything?" "Why doesn't he step up?" "How do I get more support in my marriage?" This episode will help you understand the hidden dynamics behind those questions—and what you can do to shift them. Don't forget about our in-person event Marriage & Mocktails in Utica, NY—an evening designed for women who want happier marriages and calmer homes.…

How do you support the people you love… without losing yourself in the process? In this episode, I'm unpacking a concept that has been blowing my mind lately — inspired by Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory — and showing you how it applies to real life: teenage drivers, overwhelmed toddlers, stressed-out husbands, and even your own dysregulated moments. The truth is, we cannot show up calm, loving, and wise for our families if we are abandoning ourselves. The most powerful question you can ask yourself is: What do I need right now? When you learn to take care of your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs first, you create safety — and from that place, you can truly help. This episode will help you stop boomeranging between control and collapse… and start walking parallel with the people you love. And don't forget — my upcoming FREE webinar, The Truth About Boundaries: So You Can Love Your Partner More, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER You're going to love this one. 💛 📅 Wednesday, March 11, 2026 🕛 12:00 PM Eastern…

What if nothing is wrong with your marriage… even when it feels hard? In this episode, I'm sharing a deeply personal story that sparked a powerful realization — that marriage isn't happening to you, it's happening for you or on you. We explore how shifting this single belief can move you from feeling stuck, powerless, or frustrated… into clarity, growth, and emotional freedom. I'll walk you through a simple perspective framework inspired by the Map of Consciousness, showing how emotions like shame, fear, and anger can actually be stepping stones toward courage, love, and peace. You'll learn why challenges in marriage aren't signs something is broken — they're invitations to evolve. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is helping you grow or holding you back, this episode will help you see your marriage — and yourself — in a completely new way. ✨ You'll walk away feeling more grounded, more hopeful, and knowing your next small step forward. Check out the Map of Conciousness HERE And sign up for…

So many women feel overwhelmed, stretched thin, and stuck managing everything — their home, their marriage, their kids, their business — without realizing they're already living inside systems they didn't consciously create. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible systems running your life and showing you how to redesign them so they support you instead of exhaust you. I'm sharing real-life examples from my home, my marriage, and my business (including a moment when my family's systems carried everything while I was sick in bed!) to show you what's possible when you invest time into creating rhythms that run without you micromanaging every detail. We'll talk about: How systems create freedom, not restriction Why consistency + flexibility is the real secret How to reclaim your time (your most valuable currency) Ways to simplify your business, home, and marriage If you've ever wished life felt lighter, calmer, and more supported — this episode will open your eyes to what's already…

Money doesn't just live in your bank account — it lives in your body, your nervous system, and your relationship. In this episode, we're unpacking what to do when money feels tight… that heavy, restricted, "we can't catch up" feeling that quietly creates tension in your marriage and pressure in your life. I'm sharing real stories (including how my husband and I made more money than we ever imagined… and still felt paycheck-to-paycheck) to show you why it's not the amount of money that determines your experience — it's your money identity. We'll explore scarcity vs. abundance, the "identity ceiling" that keeps pulling you back to what feels familiar, and how to start expanding your capacity to hold more — financially, emotionally, and relationally. You'll also learn a simple practice to shift from panic and pressure into space and possibility — because when you can settle your body into safety, you can get creative, problem-solve, and build a life that feels lighter (even before anything changes on paper).…

In today's episode, I'm sharing something a little unconventional but deeply personal — how I've learned to turn dread into delight, especially in the dark, heavy winter months here in upstate New York. This episode isn't about pretending winter is easy or positive. It's about validating what's real while also opening our eyes to tiny "micro moments" of joy and presence that already exist in our everyday lives. This is an invitation to slow down, soften, and notice what's already here. To expand your awareness beyond what feels hard and make space for joy alongside it. If you're in a season that feels heavy — winter, motherhood, grief, burnout, or transition — this episode will help you reconnect to presence, peace, and the beauty hidden in ordinary moments. If you are ready to rewrite some of your stories, check out my FREE Partnership Reset Guide HERE>

In today's episode, I walk you through my Partnership Reset Guide as if you were sitting with me in a private coaching session. This episode is for the woman who feels like she's doing everything — running a business, managing the home, carrying the emotional load, and holding it all together while quietly feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or disconnected. I share how I use this guide to: regulate my nervous system instead of reacting from stress, identify the invisible load I've been carrying, release control and perfectionism, create space for true partnership in my marriage and life, and shift the beliefs that keep me stuck in "one-woman show" mode. This episode is not about fixing your husband or adding more to your to-do list. It's about coming back home to yourself, trusting what you want, and remembering that partnership is possible for you. If you're a woman building a business and a family and longing for more balance, support, and peace, this episode is your reset button. And don't forget to join me…

What would it look like to be a balanced woman? Not more productive. Not more successful. Not thinner, richer, or busier. But emotionally balanced. Nervous-system regulated. Grounded in your body. Connected to yourself, your marriage, and your life. In today's episode, I'm unpacking what balance actually looks like for women—especially women business owners who are tired of hustling through their feelings, controlling everything around them, and living in a constant state of stress. We talk about emotional regulation, nervous system balance, masculine and feminine energy, hormones, seasonal rhythms, motherhood, and why "fix-it mode" is often the very thing creating disconnection in our marriages and families. I share a real-life moment from my own kitchen that perfectly illustrates how emotional imbalance shows up, why it happens, and what to do instead. We explore how learning to feel—rather than fix—is the missing link between emotional health, hormonal balance, partnership in marriage, and sustainable…

In this episode, I'm talking about hustle culture—where it comes from, why it's so deeply ingrained in women business owners, and why it's no longer working for us. I share my own story of trading time, energy, and my physical body for money, and how that way of working eventually stopped aligning with the life I wanted to live. I walk you through what it really looks like to stop building a business from lack and scarcity and instead create from presence, intuition, and self-trust. We talk about redefining success, releasing the belief of "not enough," and learning how to work less, make more, and feel more content in your day-to-day life. This episode is an invitation to slow down, reconnect with your body and your values, and start building your business around the lifestyle you desire—so your business supports your life, not the other way around. Don't miss our free webinar February 4th at 11am EST Fix Your Feelings: The Marriage Workshop for Hot Mess Women Business leaders. Click the link HERE to…

In today's conversation, I'm unpacking what real balance actually looks like in marriage and business, and why it has nothing to do with time management, perfect schedules, or splitting things 50/50. We'll talk about: Why imbalance shows up when women override their emotions and step into constant "doing" The powerful (and often forgotten) role vulnerability plays in restoring partnership How emotional awareness—not control—is the catalyst that shifts everything Why balance is a feeling, not a formula How flexibility, presence, and self-trust create freedom in both marriage and business This episode is an invitation to stop fighting yourself, stop proving, and stop carrying it all alone. When you learn to listen to your emotions and honor your inner knowing, balance returns—without forcing change, fixing your partner, or burning your life down to start over. Nothing has gone wrong. You're right where you're supposed to be. Get your free PARTNERSHIP RESET GUIDE HERE.

We're in that strange space between Christmas and New Year's — where cookies count as breakfast, the kids don't know what day it is, and everything feels just a little… off. The holidays are beautiful and full and magical — and also wildly dysregulating for our nervous systems. Today, I'm sharing a very real behind-the-scenes glimpse of the piles, the decisions, the returns, the batteries, the mess… and the reminder that what we truly crave isn't more stuff — it's grounding, ease, and freedom. We're talking about the difference between routines and rituals — not what you have to do, but what genuinely supports you and your future self. How the simplest daily rhythms can help you feel aligned again — even when life is loud and the schedule is out the window. If this week feels weird, you are not alone. This episode is your invitation to zoom out, reflect on what feels off, and gently return to what matters most. Let's regulate together. Let's create space again. Let's build a life that feels good in our…

As the year winds down, so many of us feel the pressure to set big goals, make sweeping resolutions, and "fix" ourselves before January arrives. In this episode, I invite you to pause, soften, and take a different approach. Instead of hustling toward change from a place of pressure or self-criticism, we explore how to reflect on the past year with honesty and compassion, reconnect with your why, and listen to what truly resonates for you—not what society, social media, or "experts" say you should want. I share personal stories about my own relationship with goal-setting, why traditional resolutions never worked for me, and how shifting from goals to intentions—especially choosing a single word for the year—has completely transformed how I create change in my life, marriage, and business. We'll talk about: Why wanting something to "feel better about yourself" is often depleting How building self-trust and capacity changes what you're able to receive Using winter and nature's rhythms as a guide for rest,…

In today's episode, we're talking about disappointment, birthdays, Christmas, and the pressure so many of us feel to make celebrations perfect. I'm sharing a very real story from my husband's birthday and unpacking why we often tie our worth, safety, and sense of being loved to how other people experience us. This is a conversation about cutting the cords, calling your power back, and redefining what it really means to celebrate the people you love — without guilt, fear, or overfunctioning. If this episode resonates and you're feeling tired of carrying so much in your relationship, I created a free Partnership Reset Guide to support you. It's a gentle place to slow down, release emotional and mental overload, and reconnect to support and partnership. You can download the free guide at brookesann.com.

In this heartfelt episode, I open up about one of the greatest gifts I've learned to offer my husband: holding belief for him when he forgets who he is. I share a tender moment from my own marriage—lying in bed beside a husband who felt overwhelmed, stuck, and unsure—and the powerful shift that happened when I chose belief over judgment, presence over fixing. Through stories from youth sports, grief, and late–night tears, I show what it has looked like for me to be a quiet, steady companion instead of a rescuer. I talk about the viral "Hemingway" quote on human connection, why simple presence can be so healing, and how witnessing someone's pain can be more transformative than any advice. Then I dive into the "meat and potatoes": how my thoughts become my beliefs why I can change what I believe about my husband, my marriage, and myself what cognitive dissonance feels like (and why it can make me feel torn in two) how I intentionally choose beliefs that serve me and strengthen my relationship This episode is…

Whether it's the loss of a parent, a friend, a sibling, a child, a pet, or even grief brought on by world events—heartbreak will make an appearance in your relationship. And when it does, most of us realize we were never taught how to move through it, let alone how to move through it as a couple. I share openly about the very raw, recent loss of one of my husband's closest college friends, what it stirred up in our home, and how differently the two of us process pain. You'll hear honest stories, half-baked thoughts in real time, and the tools I lean on from my training, my past experiences, and the women I work with. Inside this episode, we talk about: 🕊️ Understanding "overs" (overworking, overeating, over-scrolling) as coping mechanisms 🕊️ What co-regulation truly looks like between partners 🕊️ The courage required to rise through the emotional levels of healing 🕊️ Learning to see grief as part of your human evolution and marital growth My hope is to shine light into places that feel dark and lonely, and…

In this week's episode, we explore one of the most common pain points I see in relationships: "My husband is always off doing his hobbies… and we have nothing in common." I walk you through why you don't need shared hobbies to feel deeply connected, loved, and aligned—and why forcing yourself into interests that aren't authentic never creates real closeness. Instead, we look at how shared values, not shared activities, are what actually hold a relationship together. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and a gentle reframing of resentment, balance, and individuality, you'll learn: Why your partner's hobbies matter to him Why it's okay if you don't enjoy the same things How to uncover the values underneath the activities How to restore balance when things feel uneven How to connect deeply without changing yourself—or him If you've ever felt pressure to join in on your husband's hobbies, wondered whether you "should" participate in what he loves, or worried that your differences mean something is…